A Few ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฅ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐ˆ ๐ฅ๐ž๐š๐ซ๐ง๐ž๐ ๐ฐ๐ก๐ข๐ฅ๐ž ๐ข๐ง ๐…๐ž๐๐ž๐ซ๐š๐ฅ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐ข๐ฌ๐จ๐ง.

๐Ÿ. Taking ๐…๐จ๐ซ ๐†๐ซ๐š๐ง๐ญ๐ž๐ ๐“๐ก๐จ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ˆ ๐‹๐จ๐ฏ๐ž๐ ๐Œ๐จ๐ฌ๐ญย โ€โ€โ€

We often take for granted the people we love the most.

It didnโ€™t take but a few hours to realize just how often I took for granted my wife and children and other family members.

Before going to prison I was too often focused on building my businesses, making more and more money and doing the things that I was doing because I believed that is what defined me.

I was too worried about what other people thought about me that I wasnโ€™t present and investing in the relationships that mattered most. I took them for granted.

 

๐Ÿ. ๐‹๐ž๐ญ๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐†๐จ

In prison, it is harder to let go. Letting go of power and freedom is gut-wrenching. It feels like thereโ€™s nothing to do but dwell on the things you could have or should have done.

10 ๐™ข๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™ช๐™ฉ๐™š๐™จ ๐™›๐™š๐™š๐™ก๐™จ ๐™ก๐™ž๐™ ๐™š ๐™–๐™ฃ ๐™๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง.

Most let go of their attachments and manage to enjoy the the simple pleasures of prison life. I learned to embrace my new realities and relish television shows, playing spades, or reading murder mysteries.

There are so many variables and happenings that were completely out of my control. Letting go of the things that were out of my control was the only way to derive happiness from within.

In life whether in prison or not, we really have little control over the external world despite what we may believe. We have control of ourselves and our actions, but our world and surroundings are largely out of our control.

 

 

๐Ÿ‘. ๐’๐ž๐ฅ๐Ÿ-A๐œ๐œ๐ž๐ฉ๐ญ๐š๐ง๐œ๐ž

Going to prison forced me to look at myself in a different way. I hurt my family and I paid for it, but I had to forgive myself.

The acceptance of what ๐‘–๐‘  is the precondition of change. Without it I would have continued to be depressed, angry, sad and continued to spiral deeper and deeper down that black hole.

Acceptance for my circumstances was a huge part of healing and using my experience for personal growth.

 

๐Ÿ’. ๐…๐จ๐ซ๐ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ž๐ง๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ

Holding onto the resentment and anger I had toward my attorney and others was detrimental to my happiness. I had no peace or acceptance of my situation until I was able to forgive.

Forgiving my attorney (I havenโ€™t forgotten however) and others involved was the key to finding peace, happiness and being able to see so much I still had to be grateful for.

When we hold onto resentments toward others and donโ€™t forgive them or forgive ourselves the only person we are hurting is ourselves. Letting go and forgiving gave me freedom even though I was still locked up.

 

๐Ÿ“. ๐๐ž๐ข๐ง๐  ๐„๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐š๐ฅ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐€๐ฎ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐œ ๐–๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐Œ๐ž๐ง

I experienced how emotional outpouring was understood and accepted in prison; I cried once while I was incarcerated.

Once after calling home about three weeks after I arrived. I felt alone and was worried about my family and if my marriage would survive. I asked my wife on a phone call if she even cared anymore. When she responded โ€œI donโ€™t have time to worry about youโ€ was heart wrenching.

(๐™ฐ๐š๐š๐šŽ๐š› ๐šœ๐š˜๐š–๐šŽ ๐šœ๐šŽ๐š•๐š ๐š›๐šŽ๐š๐š•๐šŽ๐šŒ๐š๐š’๐š˜๐š— ๐šŠ๐š—๐š ๐š•๐šŽ๐š๐š๐š’๐š—๐š ๐š๐š˜ ๐š˜๐š ๐š–๐šข ๐šœ๐šŽ๐š•๐š๐š’๐šœ๐š‘ ๐šŠ๐šœ๐šœ ๐šŠ๐š๐š๐š’๐š๐šž๐š๐šŽ ๐š’๐š ๐š ๐šŠ๐šœ ๐šŽ๐šŠ๐šœ๐šข ๐š๐š˜ ๐šœ๐šŽ๐šŽ ๐š๐š‘๐šŠ๐š ๐šœ๐š‘๐šŽ ๐š ๐šŠ๐šœ ๐š’๐š— ๐š™๐š›๐š’๐šœ๐š˜๐š— ๐šŠ๐š—๐š ๐š’๐š—๐š–๐šŠ๐š—๐šข ๐š ๐šŠ๐šข๐šœ ๐š’๐š— ๐šŠ ๐š–๐šž๐šŒ๐š‘ ๐š ๐š˜๐š›๐šœ๐šŽ ๐šœ๐š’๐š๐šž๐šŠ๐š๐š’๐š˜๐š— ๐š๐š‘๐šŠ๐š— ๐™ธ ๐š ๐šŠ๐šœ. ๐š‚๐š‘๐šŽ ๐š ๐šŠ๐šœ ๐š’๐š— ๐šŠ ๐š•๐š’๐šŸ๐š’๐š—๐š ๐š‘๐šŽ๐š•๐š• ๐š ๐š’๐š๐š‘ ๐šŠ๐š•๐š• ๐š๐š‘๐šŽ ๐š๐š’๐š—๐šŠ๐š—๐šŒ๐š’๐šŠ๐š• ๐š ๐š›๐šŽ๐šŒ๐š”๐šŠ๐š๐šŽ ๐š๐š‘๐šŠ๐š ๐™ธ๐šŒ๐š›๐šŽ๐šŠ๐š๐šŽ๐š. ๐š‚๐š‘๐šŽ ๐š‘๐šŠ๐š ๐š—๐š˜ ๐šœ๐šŽ๐šŒ๐šž๐š›๐š’๐š๐šข ๐š๐š’๐š—๐šŠ๐š—๐šŒ๐š’๐šŠ๐š•๐š•๐šข ๐šŠ๐š—๐š ๐š‘๐šŠ๐š ๐š๐š˜ ๐š–๐š˜๐šŸ๐šŽ ๐š๐š›๐š˜๐š– ๐š‘๐šŽ๐š› ๐š๐š›๐šŽ๐šŠ๐š– ๐š‘๐š˜๐š–๐šŽ ๐š“๐šž๐šœ๐š ๐Ÿฝ ๐š ๐šŽ๐šŽ๐š”๐šœ ๐šŠ๐š๐š๐šŽ๐š› ๐™ธ ๐š•๐šŽ๐š๐š)

After getting back to my cell I laid on my bed put my blanket over my face and cried. My cellie patted my foot, โ€œHead up, bro.โ€

 

๐Ÿ”. ๐†๐ซ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐ญ๐ฎ๐๐ž

In prison, there is a lot of time to think. For inmates, life in the outside world feels like it stands still.

In prison we loose perspective that for family and friends, the world keeps on moving. It moves at a pace that is incomprehensible without honest reflection.

I remember feeling angry at loved ones and friends who didnโ€™t write or speak on the phone as often as I would like.

Being aware of this and expressing gratitude โ€” inside or out of prison โ€” will help any man maintain healthy and meaningful relationships.

๐๐ซ๐ข๐ฌ๐จ๐ง ๐“๐š๐ค๐ž๐š๐ฐ๐š๐ฒ๐ฌ

Hardened men, some with teardrop tattoos and gold teeth taught me more about life than my books on spirituality, God, or meditation did.

Even though I learned a lot in prison, every day here in the free world is a learning experience. Iโ€™m amazed at just how much there is to learn.

Letting go and self-acceptance were major lessons I learned from prison, but I still struggled to implement them on a regular basis.

One of my biggest takeaways from prison came from a letter I received from a friend of my mothers. I had never met her before. She consistently wrote me and sent me books through my entire sentence.

Her second letter arrived after I had been in prison for about 8 weeks. She challenged me to think of three things every night when I went to bed that I was grateful for that day. This was the key to the turning point I had mentally.

Gratitude is the foundation to peace and finding happiness. You canโ€™t be angry, depressed, or frustrated etc. when youโ€™re focused on gratitude.

Itโ€™s through the dark times in our lives that we learn and grow. Fighting through the darkness we will find the light. Itโ€™s up to us to find the gifts to bless our lives!

If you or a loved one is dealing with an indictment or worried about life after prison, go to www.americasprisonconsultant.com to schedule a free consultation.

 

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